Yes now I'm married... happily married I must say ;) and after a couple of months with my new status in Facebook I've been getting the same question over and over again about "how does it feels to be married?" and "is it what you were expecting?" so finally I decided to answer that question here to everyone interested about it, and why not? also too keep good memories that will put a smile on my face when I decide to read this blog again in fifty years from now.
Marriage is way more than just having a nice party with a huge cake, a honey moon in Paris including lots of pictures all over Facebook...l at least in our case, our married life started two years before signing the paper at church and having a nice party in the old town, it all started when we decided to commit to each other, to work as a team in order to accomplish common and personal goals by supporting each other, complementing each other's personalities, but at the same time respecting our personal spaces, needs and interests and understanding that nobody is perfect and that we both have flaws but we still love each other despite of all that.
All those descriptions are way too abstract for most of the people that have never done this before, so a real example may be more important than all I've said before... marriage is not only about a diamond ring but more about waking up early to cook breakfast for each other to make it on time at the office, about sweeping the living room while the other is doing the laundry, about listening to each others stories about their jobs even though she may not understand java and he may not have a clue about how to explain direct and indirect object pronouns, but not everything is like that, it's also about remembering and being happy about why the two of you are together, about going to the theater on weekends and playing chess during the week, traveling to new places together and enjoying drinks with friends every now and then...
And at this point comes to my mind to ask you back, is this what you were expecting from a newlyweds couple? is this what you had in mind about marriage? feel free to share your comments, and if you don't I still hope this post will be useful for someone out there ;)
Marriage is way more than just having a nice party with a huge cake, a honey moon in Paris including lots of pictures all over Facebook...l at least in our case, our married life started two years before signing the paper at church and having a nice party in the old town, it all started when we decided to commit to each other, to work as a team in order to accomplish common and personal goals by supporting each other, complementing each other's personalities, but at the same time respecting our personal spaces, needs and interests and understanding that nobody is perfect and that we both have flaws but we still love each other despite of all that.
All those descriptions are way too abstract for most of the people that have never done this before, so a real example may be more important than all I've said before... marriage is not only about a diamond ring but more about waking up early to cook breakfast for each other to make it on time at the office, about sweeping the living room while the other is doing the laundry, about listening to each others stories about their jobs even though she may not understand java and he may not have a clue about how to explain direct and indirect object pronouns, but not everything is like that, it's also about remembering and being happy about why the two of you are together, about going to the theater on weekends and playing chess during the week, traveling to new places together and enjoying drinks with friends every now and then...
And at this point comes to my mind to ask you back, is this what you were expecting from a newlyweds couple? is this what you had in mind about marriage? feel free to share your comments, and if you don't I still hope this post will be useful for someone out there ;)
